Without judgement

“You have the freedom to be yourself, your true self, here and now,

and nothing can stand in your way.” – Richard Bach.

Something interesting seems to occur when we begin to see ourselves and others without judgement. Our preconceived ideas and maybe even prejudices, find little space to dominate proceedings as openness and honesty hold the ground.

Seeing ourselves and others as we all are, without judgement, allows us to focus on what is present and how the moment itself is interacting on our feelings and attitudes. It brings a sense of clarity seldom possible when we are being judgemental and defensive.

Moving though the day without judgement or a critical approach is a freedom we can choose to experience. It’s perhaps a way of connecting with our true self, a self liberated from the pressures of conforming to the ‘moan and groan’ circus oftentimes expected of us nowadays. Being content, happy and enthusiastic about life need not be tied just to one’s financial wealth or career.

Thanks for reading this. To share your input on the issue of living without judgement of ourselves or others, please feel free to leave a comment below.

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Brian.

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3 ways to handle an obstacle

3 ways to handle an obstacle? I rarely indulge in the ‘How to’ style of blog posts. After all, I believe you are, as the co-active coaching cornerstone goes, “naturally creative, resourceful, and whole.” You don’t need me to tell you anything.

However, please bear with me as I set out 3 ways to handle an obstacle for the benefit, at least, of opening up a conversation on the subject. At the end, should you choose to ignore them that’s fine. On the other hand, if you feel I could assist you through coaching please get in touch.

3 ways to handle an obstacle

i) Meditate on it.

Yes really, use it as a focal point for some concentrated meditation. Let the obstacle become the means to still ourselves as thoughts flow in our mind. The exercise could bring up an eventual solution to the obstacle as we contemplate it calmly. Alternatively, the pause itself might be the key to aligning with previously unseen options.

ii) Accept it.

As it is, and change direction immediately. Don’t give it a second thought as we move off along a different path. If the goal or final destination is the most important aspect of our activity, we needn’t feel attached to any specific road. Being held up is not always something we wish to allow.

iii) Embrace it.

It’s there, probably for a reason so let’s learn from it by getting up close to it. Maybe we discover our planning or preparation was not as complete as first thought. Possibly new considerations need to be factored into our work so as to eventually overcome this or similar obstacles in the future.

There, 3 ways to handle an obstacle. Let me know what you think by leaving a comment below. In the meantime, thanks for reading this today.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

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Over there

 

Over there from over here

“Over there everyone understands the benefits of caring for the environment.” “If only.”

“Over there nobody goes without medical assistance.” “Are you sure?”

“Over there people respect one another and say good morning in the street.” “In the past perhaps.”

“Over there is so much better than over here.” “Really?”

Being over here, or over there, doesn’t really change much unless we change our attitudes towards life.

If others, over there, can protect our one world, so could we. If others, over there, can revere the dignity of all – young, middle-aged and old – so could we. If others, over there, can live in peace, so could we.

Over here from over there

If others, over there, look over here what would they say about us?

Thanks for reading this today, from wherever you are.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

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Streets ahead

Wherever we are now is possibly streets ahead of our position this time last year. Okay, so maybe nothing substantially has changed – same city, same job, same colleagues – yet with twelve months more experience we are indeed streets ahead.

It’s easy to focus on all the negative things surrounding us if we so choose. And conventional wisdom still tends to suggest that what we lack is more important than what we have or are. Even so, who we are and all that we do have is surely worthy of celebration, no?

Being streets ahead might, from another perspective, refer to where we are figuratively with our goals. Five months into the year and perhaps we are well on our way to achieving our targets. Regardless of the objectives in question, it could be beneficial now to reflect on our progress to date. Which aspects would prosper further from more attention? What, if anything, should be changed?

Well, to keep streets ahead of my to do list I’d better stop now. Thanks for connecting here today and please feel free to leave a comment below if you’d like to join the conversation about being streets ahead.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

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Big cheese

“Big cheese: informal an important person” – Oxford Dictionary of English.

Thinking about the composition of a typical team, department or group of collaborators, we can usually find one or two candidates for the title of big cheese. Maybe it is you.

Regardless of who it turns out to be, let’s spend a few moments looking at some of the characteristics of the big cheese.

She or he is most likely a point of reference for everyone. Nothing happens without the input or informal blessing of the big cheese. The group operates in alignment with the ideas and values of the big cheese, and is probably happy to do so.

Away from the world of work, we might have a person to whom we look for guidance. Our personal big cheese possibly provides us with advice and wise words when we are facing challenges. Perhaps the person concerned is a personality from history or fiction and we turn to her or him with our queries, wondering what our big cheese would do under similar circumstances to ours.

Other characteristics of our big cheese are worth noting briefly: a mature outlook, a rounded perspective of life and a weighty presence. The list could go on, but no doubt we have selected our big cheese using personal criteria so I will stop now.

Your presence here is always appreciated. To join the conversation regarding the big cheese, please feel free to leave a comment below.

Warmest regards.

Brian.

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Our chosen direction

“Holding ourselves accountable to ourselves keeps us headed in our chosen direction” – #bgdtcoaching.

Having found within us the strength to set goals and make plans, all that remains is for us to follow our chosen direction. This could lead us directly to our destination, figuratively or literally speaking. Alternatively, we may encounter any number of barriers and interferences, disturbing our progress.

The attitude we adopt on a daily basis surely influences and impacts on how we face eventual challenges and setbacks. And holding ourselves accountable to ourselves keeps us headed in our chosen direction, regardless of the occasional inconvenience.

Yet as we progress in our chosen direction, the presence of three crucial indicators – love, heart and passion – can guide us, set out in the archive blog post entitled ‘Signposts‘ (click here to read).

That we were instrumental in selecting our chosen direction should, it could be imagined, suggest we are motivated to not only reach a desired objective, but also enjoy the journey on the way to it. If not, we might perhaps wish to reconsider our choice.

Thanks for reading this today. To share your thoughts on the issue of our chosen direction, please leave a comment below.

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Brian.

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Structures

Structures by definition give shape to and support our life.

• Architectural structures

We can associate certain structures with particular locations: the Leaning Tower of Pisa or the London Eye, for example. These constructions impact on us as they either blend in with the surrounding buildings or stand out, perhaps for their audaciousness and oftentimes for their beauty.

• Mental structures

Our mindset, our mental structures, influence our everyday life in a similar fashion. We might be the type of person who likes or needs everything to be highly organized and clearly structured. Alternatively, we could prefer spontaneity of thinking and appreciate a more carefree way of dealing with challenges and tasks.

• Development structures

Within this category of structures we can include those items designed to help us reinforce and maintain ways of being. The knot in the handkerchief is one such structure. Likewise we could use a post-it note on the fridge door or set an alarm notice on the mobile phone. In each case the structure helps us to reach the point in which our desired habit becomes just that, a habit.

Thanks for stopping by here today. To share your thoughts on the subject of structures, please don’t hesitate to leave a comment below.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

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