Approaches To Waiting

Waiting, like most things, can be viewed from various perspectives.

A passive approach to waiting is practiced by many. Knowing what they don’t want to occur, they wait anxiously hoping all will turn out OK. It’s a negative, somewhat frightened approach to living, but, they believe, if they keep their heads down they’ll get through the waiting.

Another perspective is that of indifference. Not caring about an outcome can render the waiting more palatable, if one can be bothered to think about it at all. Things are done as needed to be done. One’s interest is held just long enough to complete a task. Waiting for results is not one’s concern.

Some people don’t wait. Queues are never joined, every action either has an immediate outcome or it is not undertaken. This perspective is often associated with the fast pace of ‘modern living’. It is an instant interaction with the world around them. ‘Now or never’ might be their motto.

A fourth perspective towards waiting might be summed up as ‘released mindfulness’. If we have done all that can be done regarding a task or action and given our best efforts, there will come a time we need to release the matter and let the process we have set in motion take its course.

This approach reminds me of trusting, patient gardeners and farmers who plough, sow, water and tend to the garden or field, knowing if they do all they can the flowers or crop will play their part and grow in due course.

Having completed the initial stages they move on to the next task, certain in the knowledge that ‘what will be, will be’. Digging up the seeds to see how things are going will not help matters. When the time is right, the flowers can be picked or the crop harvested.

Wherever we are on the learning curve there will be moments of waiting involved. Impatience towards personal and professional growth won’t speed up the process. Releasing the tasks once completed, mindful in the knowledge we have done all we can is part of the learning. The waiting give us a chance to practice this.

You might have different strategies for dealing with waiting. As always I’d love to hear your input on this issue. If you wish to share, please leave a comment.

Thanks for reading this.



4 Responses to Reflections

  1. Dawn says:

    For every time I am assailed by self-doubt, for every time I feel generally daunted at the sheer impossibility of things, I’m gently reminded by you to just stop. To stop thinking of the level of effort, the difficulties, the costs and risks and just do.

    Wow. Just. Wow.


    Sometimes just “letting go”…letting go of the expectations of an idea, experience, or desire can really help with waiting. By letting go and accepting that waiting may occur can help put someone in a different frame of mind.

    • bgdtcoaching says:

      Thanks so very much for sharing your thoughts here. Releasing, letting go, just accepting what is, all sounds good.

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