“It is just not me.” An answer we might give to ourselves in many instances when faced with something beyond our comfort zone. And often it is a reflexive phrase rather than a pondered reply.
“It is just not possible” is another kneejerk reaction offered when first encountering a seemingly tough endeavour. Such thinking can leave us feeling safe, in the sense we refuse to place ourselves in difficulty by demanding more of ourselves than we believe we can give.
That said, “It is just not …” is one of those automatic responses worth examining a little more. Our beliefs regarding new and/or challenging situations may stem from past experiences in which we weren’t perhaps able to cope with complete success.
However, along the path leading to today we will have acquired further learning and expanded our abilities by doing, observing and studying. Earlier efforts are not a foolproof indicator of how we will perform either today or tomorrow. “It is just not” thinking in these cases reflects the ‘Us’ of yesterday, not who we are now.
Trusting ourselves can be scary if we are not used to doing so. Giving in or giving up even before attempting though closes us off from opportunities and then our “It is just not me” thinking becomes self-fulfilling. And this is just not cricket.
I appreciate your presence here today. Many thanks for taking the time to read this ‘It is just not‘ post.
Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer and CTI-trained co-active coach, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013), Reflections on performance at work (2012), Elements of theatre at work (2010) and Training through drama for work (2009).