When offered to take a seat it can mean we are, in some way, subject to the power of the other person for that particular instance. We might think of an appraisal meeting, an exam or an interview. In each case there is this perception of command and control.
Years ago I read – unfortunately I no longer recall where – about a little trick to keep things balanced when asked to take a seat.
After a chair has been indicated, before we take a seat move it slightly. Possibly a small push to the left or right, a minor shift backwards or forwards, could be made surreptitiously. The idea is to demonstrate, at least to ourselves, we are deciding where to sit.
Such mind games may not be necessary on every occasion we are required to take a seat, yet it is a habit worth cultivating. As with any similar tips, it works to the extent we believe it to. In any case, it is a method to take a seat on our terms instead of someone else’s.
Waiting for the other party to take a seat, standing if they stand and making eye contact, if appropriate, are further ideas related to moments of interactions. Visualizing a positive or successful outcome prior to the encounter is another potentially useful hint worthy of investigation.
However, perhaps the ultimate input in such matters is the Golden Rule: “Treat others as you would like to be treated.”
Thanks for reading this ‘Take a seat‘ post.
Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Performance skills at work (2015), Personal performance potential at work (2014), Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013), Reflections on performance at work (2012), Elements of theatre at work (2010) and Training through drama for work (2009).