One of the most powerful coaching questions I have used over the years is “What would you really like to be asked?”
Clients know what is at the core of their thinking at any moment and this question goes directly to this. In many areas of our existence, we manage closely how we appear to those around us and what we want to be made known to them.
This ‘putting up a facade’ expedites many interactions and keeps the days flowing without too much upset for all concerned. However, at least within the setting of the coaching conversation, the pretence has no value to the client. Being truly heard, also in the pauses, on the contrary, can add to the client’s reflection.
Getting to the heart of an issue by asking “What would you really like to be asked?” – especially if the client is denying to himself or herself the existence of doubts or shying away from confronting them if appropriate to the session – opens up the conversation to ideally produce learning for the client.
Of course, it is not necessary to have the coach in the same room to experience the benefit of this enquiry. Right now, “What would you really like to be asked?” Your answer could, however, be the starting point of a complimentary coaching session, via either Skype or Google+ hangout, if you’d like to get in contact.
Kindest regards and thanks for reading this What would you really like to be asked? post today.
Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
The stage of work (2016)
Performance skills at work (2015)
Elements of theatre at work (2010)