Expectations. Are they driving us on or holding us back?

June 22, 2017

cakes

 

It is perhaps part of life to have expectations. Maybe we are hoping for this, striving for that. Whatever the current situation, we know how we’d like it to turn out. Even so, it is surely fair to ask from time to time in reference to our expectations, ‘Are they driving us on or holding us back?’

On occasions, it is the sheer desire to meet expectations that drive us on. The path could be testing, yet with our sights set on the end goal, we find that extra sprint to get us to it. Unfortunately, likewise, there will be times when desire is not enough.

With the weight of expectations on our shoulders, especially in those instances we have not fully bought into a project or objective, expectations can seem so heavy they are indeed holding us back and possibly also down.

Finding the balance point between these two positions is, in all likelihood, an exercise not so unknown to many of us. “Expectations. Are they driving us on or holding us back?” It is a question to ponder and deal with on a regular basis.

For now, however, thanks for reading this ‘Expectations. Are they driving us on or holding us back?’ post today.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer
Coach – Trainer – Adjunct Professor – Author

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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer, Adjunct Professor and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to reach their full potential, in education, work or life in general.

Publications

Heart Poems On Waves (2017)

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


Are you giving in or giving to the moment?

June 8, 2017

Clouds in the moment

 

It could be we are sailing along without thought to how we approach each day. If this is the case then the inquiry ‘Are you giving in or giving to the moment?’ would be a ‘bolt out of the blue’. Then again, you may be the type of person who is sensitive to the impact your presence has on those around you.

Taking the first section of the question ‘Are you giving in or giving to the moment?’, the aspect of ‘giving in’ or surrendering to the moment, our action is linked to our way of being as well as the situation we are facing.

As the saying goes: “We don’t need to fight every battle”. This is true especially at a challenging time when resources such as energy, patience and resolve are being tested to the limit.

Giving to the moment, the second section of the question ‘Are you giving in or giving to the moment?’, might suggest we are embracing whatever is before us. Ideally, we are offering our potential to ensure we are living the experience of the moment, whilst being an integral part of it.

Giving in or giving to, two positions seemly opposite in nature. Even so, ‘Are you giving in or giving to the moment?’ remains a question for us to answer, according to our own criteria and in the moment itself.

Brian.

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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach, and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to reach their full potential, in education, work or life in general.

Publications

Heart Poems On Waves (2017)

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


Why the best souvenirs reside in the heart

May 14, 2017

Souvenirs

 

You might be wondering about what I mean with the heading “Why the best souvenirs reside in the heart”. Possibly I am implying the knick-knacks often hawked near popular tourist attractions are less valuable than the memories we create merely by being there.

Alternatively, I might be attempting to explain with the statement “Why the best souvenirs reside in the heart” that to truly reconnect at a later date with a pleasant event or visit, for example, the most important ‘souvenirs’ are those ‘purchased’ by actually living the moment fully at the time of its occurrence.

By being present we avoid that common feeling of having done something, seen something or someone, yet can remember nothing about it. Moving through the day as if on autopilot is the opposite of being present and therefore this is why the best souvenirs reside in the heart.

The notion of a lovely thrilling encounter with reality, or a glimpsing through the crack of illusion if you prefer, is something for which no t-shirts are sold nor fridge magnets exist. Nevertheless, such experiences do occur and accordingly is why the best souvenirs reside in the heart.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

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Twitter: @bgdtcoaching

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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach, and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to reach their full potential, in education, work or life in general.

Publications

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


Turning from the ugliness of the moment

May 11, 2017

Ugliness in the city

No matter where we are, and I hope you are in a beautiful place right now, turning from the ugliness of the moment is something we can all do. This is especially so when we widen the scope of what we mean as ugliness to include negative world events, collective concerns and personal fears.

Rather than suggesting we should bury our heads in the sand, nor even ignore whatever we dislike, we can choice to manage our attitude towards the ugliness of the moment.

Personal fears deserve focused attention to investigate their validity plus the element of learning they might contain for us. Turning from the ugliness of the moment, in this case, would be a case of looking below the surface to comprehend what we need to take on board before dismissing the rest.

Collective concerns, such as unusual climatic occurrences for example, likewise require a clear-headed effort to understand what each of us is able to do to at least not perpetuate the situation. Turning from the ugliness of the moment here would be more a question of turning the matter around to gain insight and find a way through the mess.

Negative world events have the power to overwhelm us only of we give away our ability to face them with intelligence and objectivity. Turning from the ugliness of the moment in this instance would mean trusting ourselves and the world at large to overcome ugliness with goodness, compassion and beauty.

Ramblings no doubt, but thanks nonetheless for connecting and reading this post today. If you’d like to share your input on the issue of Turning from the ugliness of the moment, please feel free to leave a comment below.

Brian.

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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach, and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to reach their full potential, in education, work or life in general.

Publications

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


Packaged simply

May 4, 2017

Simple packaging

 

Be it an object or an idea, when packaged simply anything has the potential to be understood in an instance. A certain neatness draws us to it we might say.

In terms of using the object in question packaged simply, the simplicity of packaging might help us in connecting to it for the sake of implementing or using it. Certainly, it is not fair to assume this will always be so, yet many times it is.

Another benefit of having something packaged simply, at least from the perspective of respecting the environment, is the absence of unnecessary waste. So often we have to fight our way through needless layers of plastic, cardboard and the like to actually reach the thing which could easily have been packaged simply.

The question to be asked may well be whether those who, for whatever reasons, fail to ensure their product or service is packaged simply have ever attempted to use it? If yes, why weren’t better opening instructions included? If no, why not?

Taking the matter of being packaged simply to perhaps extreme levels, to what extent are we hiding behind facades, hype, and bluff? Would it be fair to say we live up to our words and communicate effectively who we are, being authentic at all times?

To share your thoughts on the points raised here, please leave a comment below. For now, thanks for reading this ‘Packaged simply‘ post.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

Skype: bgdtskype

Twitter: @bgdtcoaching

E-mail: brian@bgdtcoaching.com

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Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/BrianGroves

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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach, and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to reach their full potential, in education, work or life in general.

Publications

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


Being seen as we are in every moment

April 30, 2017

CCTV being seen sign

 

Putting aside the benefits or otherwise of being seen as we are in every moment by way of the numerous CCTV cameras directed at us everywhere, let’s consider the idea of being seen behind the facade and masks we may use for whatever reason as we go about performing our daily routines.

It is likely we have become accustomed to undertaking various roles over the course of the day. With these parts – worker, student, customer, father, mother, family member, friend, neighbour and the like – come expectations regarding our performance. Authenticity and integrity, however, could suffer in the process.

Attempting to live up to what is required or considered best practice leads, in many cases, to the aforementioned facade and masks. It is so easy to forget who we are in such instances. Letting go of any worries about being seen as we are in every moment by others can be liberating.

Being seen as we are in every moment by ourselves, on the other hand, involves a good measure of self-awareness coupled with a dash of curiosity. From this position of clarity, we are able to ensure that the forthcoming efforts are directed towards our desired goals, as opposed to those of everyone else excluding ours.

To share your input on the issues raised, please leave a comment below. In the meantime, thanks for reading this ‘Being seen as we are in every moment’ post.

Brian.

Skype: bgdtskype
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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Publications

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


WAVES RIGHT NOW from More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams

April 28, 2017

Waves

 

WAVES RIGHT NOW from More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams

“Waves shape the sea, as our presence shapes today.” @bgdtcoaching

The waves carry hope, clothed in a mist.
Each crest rises and falls, relentless in its march.
Reefs, wrecks and waste fail to impede
the charge of the white horses.
Ride the force, languish in the pool.
No man is spared the unyielding waves.
A verse from the mariner, a shanty whistled softly.
Life is captured in the waves of the moment.
Waves of loss crash cruelly against the rocks.
Waves of love kiss gently the shore.
Nothing is certain, save the waves right now.

 

Brian.

Skype: bgdtskype
Twitter: @bgdtcoaching
E-mail: brian@bgdtcoaching.com
Google+: google.com/+BrianGroves
Website: http://www.bgdtcoaching.com
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Blog: https://bgdtcoaching.wordpress.com
Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/BrianGroves
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LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/today/author/bgdtcoaching
Pinterest: http://pinterest.com/bgdtcoaching/the-bgdtcoaching-space

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Publications

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


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