Stop judging, start appreciating

September 15, 2019

As per the title ‘Stop judging, start appreciating’, off the top of your head, list ten items, things, people or experiences you appreciate as part of your life.

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Now that you’ve created your list, how could you go about incorporating more gratitude and appreciation into your daily routine as opposed to judging everything as either ‘for you’ or ‘against you’?

Choosing to focus on the good things, however, does not mean we should ignore issues, challenges and problems. On the contrary, when we stop judging and start appreciating the good things we are able to use the positive feeling generated to tackle difficulties.

Wallowing in doom, gloom and despair can sap us of any inclination or desire to push forward with heartfelt projects. So, look at your list and begin to stop judging, start appreciating and enjoy the fact life consists of many things, all of which add something to our experience of it.

Or not. To offer your input on the notion of ‘Stop judging, start appreciating’, please leave a comment below.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Getting beyond stereotypes to see people as individuals

August 1, 2019

Many people these days are discussing what, if anything, specific, is behind the recent rise in tension being experienced in many parts of the world.

Without getting wrapped up in geopolitical considerations and even less in conspiracy theories, perhaps by getting beyond stereotypes to see people as individuals we could begin to decrease some of the tension.

Latching onto simplistic slogans for the sake of categorizing everyone as either ‘good’ or ‘bad’ citizens helps nobody. Seeing the person in front of us as a human being might be more useful. Appreciating we are all co-inhabitants on the earth would go far in overcoming artificial, man-made differences and prejudices.

Getting beyond stereotypes to see people as individuals would, additionally, give ourselves a greater awareness of how we fit into society in general and our own community in particular. Each encounter, every conversation as well as all the smiles we give and receive, make up the experience of our existence.

Furthermore, in this instance, getting beyond stereotypes to see people as individuals is a definition of what it means to be present, right here and right now.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves

July 11, 2019

When it comes to working in a team, appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves goes a long way towards building harmony and collaboration.

Sharing pleasure for the work undertaken by colleagues creates an atmosphere inside any team that can inspire ongoing best performances. Ignoring the input of staff on the results obtained, on the other hand, leads to resentment and infighting.

Appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves, however, is not something to be done as either a one-off action or in a manner suggesting it is being given merely for the sake of doing it. Expressing heartfelt gratitude connects people to the work, the shared goals and all those involved in the process.

Nevertheless, appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves need not be limited to verbal acknowledgements. Being creative in how appreciation is demonstrated – gifting time-off or person-specific ‘treats’, for example – indicates the thoughtful nature of the employer, team-leader and so forth.

In terms of appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves, the words ‘and ourselves’ may come at the end of the phrase, yet in all probability, they should be at the beginning. If we fail to give ourselves a ‘pat on the back’ after producing exceptional work, our motivation to praise others can quickly diminish.

Motivation and optimism are key factors impacting on success as well as on creating a productive and open working environment. When all concerned understand their efforts are appreciated, rather than taken for granted, the results can be truly outstanding.

If you’d like to share your thoughts on the ideas raised here, please don’t hesitate to leave a comment below. In the meantime, thanks for reading this ‘Appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves’ post today.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Acknowledging the presence of those around us

July 7, 2019

As we move through the day, it is easy to be so focused on our tasks, our objectives, ourselves, that the idea of acknowledging the presence of those around us gets forgotten.

Nevertheless, once we go beyond the immediate concerns of the moment, we can take a few minutes to reflect on what the day would be like without those around us. We might discover that, in many instances, time spent in the company of others is the source of lasting memories.

Acknowledging the presence of those around us may create a positive moment for them. And, in all likelihood, put a smile on our face as we see their appreciation for our sentiments towards them.

Starting with the words ‘Thank you’ is perhaps the first step in acknowledging the presence of those around us. Directing the thanks towards a specific action or reason could be the next step.

To get the ball rolling, let me thank you for taking the time today to read this ‘Acknowledging the presence of those around us’ post.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Tranquillity in a busy moment

June 30, 2019

Finding tranquillity in a busy moment is much about looking for it.

We might actually not be aware tranquillity in a busy moment is something we can really find. And this is especially so when we are wrapped up in getting things done as quickly as possible to move onto the next items on our list of tasks.

Embracing tranquillity in a busy moment provides us with the occasion to step away from the intensity of the moment and, if desired, reflect on the present situation with a calmer mind. Such a pause could open up all sorts of learning or, at least, a sense of perspective regarding how the day is going.

With the pressure on us to be as effective as possible at all times – who knows how this mindset managed to take hold of us – it may seem foolish to ponder the notion of pausing. That said, burnout is such a big problem nowadays perhaps seeking tranquillity in a busy moment is not such a bad idea after all.

Letting go of guilt about giving ourselves time to catch our breath is a key component to connecting with tranquillity in a busy moment. If you’d like to explore this idea as part of a coaching conversation, please get in contact.

For now, thanks for taking the time to read this ‘Tranquillity in a busy moment’ post today.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Listening intently

June 23, 2019

That we all listen to others throughout the day is a certainty, yet to what extent are we listening intently when we pay attention to others?

Listening intently is that form of connecting with the speaker for the sake of actually hearing the message being transmitted. We could call this active listening, as the opposite is certainly passive from the perspective of participants in the communication process.

All number of benefits can arrive when we engage in listening intently.

1) We show respect to the speaker and acknowledge we are interested in what is being said.

2) We transmit empathy by listening intently, and this could be reciprocated when it is ‘our time’ to speak.

3) By listening intently we have the possibility to learn something new. As the saying goes, “It is difficult to learn from others when we are talking”.

Listening intently is, of course, a central part of the coaching conversation. Being heard and, if necessary, having words and ideas repeated back can spark input and lead to clarity on the part of the client. Curious? Please get in contact and we can schedule a session.

Thanks for reading this ‘Listening intently’ post today.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Empathy and integrity

June 20, 2019

Out of empathy and integrity, as soft skills which one is more important? Alphabetically speaking, empathy comes before integrity. But that is obviously not the only method of evaluating the importance of empathy and integrity.

This question was raised in a recent training session and the subsequent discussion brought up interesting viewpoints. Looking at empathy and integrity together, it is fair to say both are crucial to us operating in an interpersonal, highly connected, world.

Empathy for others, as well as for ourselves, is essential to the task of ‘getting along with others’. Integrity, keeping our word and living aligned with our values, acts as a point of reference for our behaviour on a daily basis.

If pushed, I’d stick with the alphabetical order. Being able to ‘be with people’ even if we don’t particularly understand or actually like the people before us, goes a long way to building a peaceful existence for all. Integrity is, of course, also an element of this, but broadly speaking seems to be a close second to empathy.

How we rank empathy and integrity does not especially matter, however, when both are part of our ‘way of being’ so perhaps the question is best set aside now.

In any case, thanks for reading this ‘Empathy and integrity’ post.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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