Reflections – Past and Present

August 18, 2011

Though not a car buff, I can appreciate the historical importance of the early cars and how their introduction into society helped change the lives of many folk.

The procession of these classic vehicles most likely stirs fond memories of past days in quite a few here today.

As design technology developed in line with consumer needs and perhaps too as communities expanded beyond the city walls, the role of the car evolved. Nowadays it certainly plays a central part in the lives of numerous people.

Whether an essential object of the household or a luxury item for just a few, the car is a symbol of progress and development in terms of mobility and connectivity.

As the procession continues, I guess now is not the occasion to raise concerns regarding pollution and dependency on oil exporting countries. Such matters can be aired another day.

Thanks for being here today. If you would like to contact me, I can be reached by e-mail, through my website, blog or via Twitter.

Thanks again and goodbye for now.



July 8, 2010

One World, Our World

As imagined, the oil spill is fast receding from the headlines. Other global events have captured the attention of the world’s press; old news is never top news.

With apparently no accurate details forthcoming regarding how much oil is still gushing into the sea, talk has shifted to how much it will eventually cost BP to settle all the expenses involved in cleaning up the coastline. Yet even these estimates are just that, estimates.

Whilst many have campaigned for changes to our universal obsession with oil-based products, the implementation of alternative energy policies takes time. And in that time the oil continues to flow into the ocean, wildlife goes on suffering and livelihoods are lost daily…

As a believer in personal and professional development, I cannot help but feel any growth in either of these areas should be coupled with an increase in the connectivity we have with this world, our world, the one world we are part of.

Anything less seems wrong, akin to ‘biting the hand that feeds us’ or like ‘spitting in the dish from which we eat,’ as the Italian version of the saying goes.

I’m not hoping with my words here to change anyone’s attitude or behaviour. I understand change is always a personal matter. I just don’t want to remain silent whilst ‘the earth dies screaming’ to quote a song title by UB40.

Thanks for reading this today. My earlier posting on this issue, entitled ‘A Vested Interest,’ can be found on this blog if you are interested or curious.



June 3, 2010

A Vested Interest

Like many I have been amazed, shocked and upset by events surrounding the oil spill off the coast of America. For now it is big news and receiving worldwide coverage.

Yet other items are already vying for front page newspaper space and prime-time TV billing. At some point the incident will thus just slip off into the history books, unlike the environmental damage which won’t go away so easily.

Blame for the disaster can be attributed to every level of our so-called civilized society. Electricity is taken as a given right, use of the car for a two-minute journey is normal practice and let’s not even consider air conditioning. Though we pay for these services, there seems to be little thought and even less care about how energy supplies are obtained. Until something goes publicly wrong.

Moving away from the spill, the perfect-looking food reaching our tables will, in all likelihood, have been treated with various substances to ensure its ‘goodness’. And what about the impact crop dusting may have on our skin and respiratory system?

I don’t mean this to be a rant against progress. Improvements in food production have surely reduced famine in various parts of the world, unfortunately not all but that’s another question. I don’t even intend to suggest we should all turn Green, I’m just a little concerned if we continue abusing our home planet we might end up green …

Yes, this may all seem over the top and dramatic. After all, nature has been more than competent in dealing with the mess we have created – so far. Still, as the old saying goes, “just because it has always been like that, it doesn’t mean it will continue to be so.”

We have a vested interest in protecting the world and, with the oil spill having oozed into our awareness, perhaps now is the right time for us to reflect further on the issue. As Martin Luther King, Jr. said: “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

Thanks for reading this.



May 13, 2010

Four Months Down the Line

Four months ago my Dad died. Four months, not long really compared to the forty-six years and twelve days I had him in my life. Four months to get used to this new reality when in actual fact it will probably take forever, and still seem strange.

Looking back four months I see this dark moment of pain and upset. I can recall how I felt being closed in a room alone, attempting to make sense of years of papers as his executor, whilst all I wanted was to be downstairs with the rest of the family. Doing one’s duty isn’t always easy… Yet as the tears flowed, the kindness of many people carried me through those days.

What about looking forward four months? September 2010. The summer holidays will be over, the new academic year will more or less have started, and? Where will we be, what will we be doing? Naturally, like you, I have no precise answers, all we can do is plan, prepare and implement action today for then.

Four months, not long really but I’ve learnt this year it’s long enough for lives to be changed. I’m working now to play my part in bringing about a positive change. How it all goes is for another posting, yes four months down the line. And you? Where do you plan, think, and hope to be, four months down the line?

Keep in touch and thanks for reading this.



January 28, 2010

Serenity and Surrender

Dreamlike days, intense conversations and the universal love of people, these are the things coming to mind when reflecting on the past few weeks.

Dreamlike days: with the news of the death of my dad, initial actions took on a surreal feel. My mind coped on one level, yet I felt at times to be split between doing and being. Centering and connecting with the breath helped so let me offer thanks to Jack Kornfield, right here right now.

Intense conversations: each word seemed to take on a great intensity. Holding the space for a client to explore, speak, experience and be is what I do as a co-active coach. In this case, the space held me. Support, friendship and guidance formed the cushion.

Universal love of people: with a lifetime of memories gathered in the cremation chapel last Friday, this is the message I believe sums up my dad’s life. Choosing to celebrate laughter and happiness, however, need not only be done in times of loss. One could ask is there ever a bad moment to remember the wonderful essences of life?

Keep in touch.


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January 14, 2010


… And his love goes marching on, on, on.

For Eric Groves, my dad, who died late Tuesday evening, aged 82.


September 24, 2009

The Power of Intention

 The environment, or better man’s abuse of the environment, has made the news once again this week as the world’s leaders discuss the issue and outline grand schemes to ‘save’ the world by various dates in the future.

Daily it always strikes me as odd how we get upset by litter in the streets, the sight of the melting ice-caps and the destruction of the world’s forests yet are unable to change the very habits that contribute to these problems.

Believing the matter can only be dealt with at government or United Nations level seems to be an excuse for us to ignore our part in the problem and indeed in the eventual solution.

Shortly in Italy the annual clean-up organized by environmental activists will take place. Picking up litter is, of course, a good thing but perhaps we should all ask ourselves why someone felt inclined to throw it on the floor in the first place?

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin once said: “Someday after we have mastered the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of Love. Then for the second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.”

I wonder what the impact on our world would be if we were to first harness the energies of love; would we still be creating environmental damage, adjudicating the right of movement to fellow humans on the basis of their birthplace or religion and looking to solve disputes with force?

Ciao for now.



June 26, 2009
Much time each day is spent communicating with others, be it on the telephone, face-to-face or via instant messaging programs.

Eleanor Roosevelt offered the following words concerning the content of these numerous interactions:

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
Until next week, ciao for now.


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