Being mean with our access and generous with our energy

September 27, 2020

Regardless of our status, giving others unlimited access to our days might lead to us being treated like doormats by everybody.

Being mean with our access and generous with our energy, on the contrary, is a strategy worth exploring.

Perhaps the word ‘mean’ is too strong here. But, in any case, each of us will attach our interpretation to it, so maybe it is not a big issue in the context of being mean with our access and generous with our energy.

That said, restricting access to our days, in person or via digital means, ensures we have the opportunity to ‘get things done’ as opposed to just ‘get through the day’.

But once we have decided, or are obliged in certain instances, to give access to someone, being generous with our energy is a powerful approach to life. By connecting with people in this manner, we are demonstrating we value them, without undervaluing ourselves.

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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM FCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate clients and individuals, mainly motivated young and mid-life professionals who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches the International graduate course Personal marketing: performance skills at work.

In past semesters, he additionally taught the International graduate course Leadership coaching: bringing potential to the stage of work and the Interfaculty postgraduate course Training through drama and coaching for work.

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March 16, 2010

Being at Home, Working

“There are many truths of which the full meaning cannot be realised until personal experience has brought it home.”

-John Stuart Mill

The journey from a full time freelance trainer, often providing training sessions in up to five different offices in a day, to a home-based worker, with external appointments the exception rather than the norm, has been not only fulfilling – yes and somewhat stressful at times – but also a great learning opportunity for me.

Being disciplined around goals, objectives and a daily structure were well-ingrained habits and offered in themselves a starting point for me to enter into this whole new way of working. Some of the biggest lessons have concerned my attitude towards myself and productivity.

Thinking is working
Ideally everyone thinks during their daily undertakings, though few seem to have dedicated time for this crucial activity. I know at first I found myself feeling guilty if I just sat and thought. Shouldn’t I be ‘doing something?’ was a question very quickly on the scene. Now I can appreciate the quiet times as vital inputs to my working day. The appreciation doesn’t always stop the doubts, but I’m beginning to feel I have the upper hand in the contest.

Others may think what they like
I was used to wearing a tie, carrying a briefcase and ‘being the part’ as it were. To anyone interested, there was no doubt I was ‘working’. At present I am sitting here in an old sweater and jeans. It took a while but now I understand my comfort whilst working at home is more important than attempting to come across as a ‘professional’ to others with whom I may come into contact in the course of the day.

Being local doesn’t stop one being global
Certainly it’s not necessary to be working from home to connect with the world. Many office workers interact around the clock with clients, colleagues and contacts in a variety of worldwide locations. For me, breaking the cycle of daily sessions in one city, Milan, has opened up opportunities to widen my horizon from the much smaller city of Modena. Thanks to Skype and Twitter I now have clients in different time zones and feel part of this great universal much more than ever before.

As with everything, it’s all in constant evolution and it’s all about our perceptions to what is. Other hurdles will present themselves together with learning opportunities. Being open to the whole enchilada as a home-based worker is not always easy, but then neither was schlepping around every day with 10 kilos of training material…

Ciao for now.

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