Are you giving in or giving to the moment?

June 8, 2017

Clouds in the moment

 

It could be we are sailing along without thought to how we approach each day. If this is the case then the inquiry ‘Are you giving in or giving to the moment?’ would be a ‘bolt out of the blue’. Then again, you may be the type of person who is sensitive to the impact your presence has on those around you.

Taking the first section of the question ‘Are you giving in or giving to the moment?’, the aspect of ‘giving in’ or surrendering to the moment, our action is linked to our way of being as well as the situation we are facing.

As the saying goes: “We don’t need to fight every battle”. This is true especially at a challenging time when resources such as energy, patience and resolve are being tested to the limit.

Giving to the moment, the second section of the question ‘Are you giving in or giving to the moment?’, might suggest we are embracing whatever is before us. Ideally, we are offering our potential to ensure we are living the experience of the moment, whilst being an integral part of it.

Giving in or giving to, two positions seemly opposite in nature. Even so, ‘Are you giving in or giving to the moment?’ remains a question for us to answer, according to our own criteria and in the moment itself.

Brian.

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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach, and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to reach their full potential, in education, work or life in general.

Publications

Heart Poems On Waves (2017)

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


Turning from the ugliness of the moment

May 11, 2017

Ugliness in the city

No matter where we are, and I hope you are in a beautiful place right now, turning from the ugliness of the moment is something we can all do. This is especially so when we widen the scope of what we mean as ugliness to include negative world events, collective concerns and personal fears.

Rather than suggesting we should bury our heads in the sand, nor even ignore whatever we dislike, we can choice to manage our attitude towards the ugliness of the moment.

Personal fears deserve focused attention to investigate their validity plus the element of learning they might contain for us. Turning from the ugliness of the moment, in this case, would be a case of looking below the surface to comprehend what we need to take on board before dismissing the rest.

Collective concerns, such as unusual climatic occurrences for example, likewise require a clear-headed effort to understand what each of us is able to do to at least not perpetuate the situation. Turning from the ugliness of the moment here would be more a question of turning the matter around to gain insight and find a way through the mess.

Negative world events have the power to overwhelm us only of we give away our ability to face them with intelligence and objectivity. Turning from the ugliness of the moment in this instance would mean trusting ourselves and the world at large to overcome ugliness with goodness, compassion and beauty.

Ramblings no doubt, but thanks nonetheless for connecting and reading this post today. If you’d like to share your input on the issue of Turning from the ugliness of the moment, please feel free to leave a comment below.

Brian.

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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach, and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to reach their full potential, in education, work or life in general.

Publications

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


What is stopping you right now? Really?

April 9, 2017

Rain stopping activities

 

So, what is stopping you right now from doing whatever it is in your heart you know you want to do?

Listening to your response – spoken in your mind or indeed aloud – might be enough to encourage you to drill down into the core of the matter by asking “Really?”

To what extent does the reason you give to explain what is stopping you right now seem valid? Looking at the issue from a different direction, what would you gain from overcoming the immediate hold-up or what is stopping you right now and completing the undertaking successfully?

What else would its achievement mean to you? Seeing things from beyond what is stopping you right now may help to keep current challenges, setbacks or obstacles in perspective.

Events do not always go as we would wish them to. However, provided our intention, motivation, and preparation match our willingness to strive forward, there is little that can impede us back from putting our potential into play in the proverbial game of life.

And if the response to the enquiry “What is stopping you right now?” is connected to doubts and fears then these too might benefit from a similar exploration, possibly starting with a simple “Really?” before moving onto an investigation into the actual validity, likely occurrence or true significance of these negative points.

Thanks for reading this ‘What is stopping you right now? Really?‘ post.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Publications

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


Is no way absolutely better than any way?

April 2, 2017

Sign posts

 

Looking at things from the perspective of ‘All or Nothing’, ‘This or That’, can be just as limiting as grasping onto a knee-jerk answer regarding the question “Is no way absolutely better than any way?

Whether it is advisable to place trust in such a restrictive mode of thinking will perhaps become clear over the course of time.

Yet is no way absolutely better than any way? In the first instance, however, exploring options around ‘No way’ being ‘Absolutely better’ than ‘Any way’ might provide new lines of enquiry.

Expanding our vision of the issue before us – in an ideal world – requires we make our eventual decisions concerning which way to move with clear intentions after carefully investigating our options.

So, all things considered, is no way absolutely better than any way?

If you’d like to share your input or even your response to the question “Is no way absolutely better than any way?“, please don’t hesitate to leave a comment below.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

Skype: bgdtskype
Twitter: @bgdtcoaching
E-mail: brian@bgdtcoaching.com
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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Publications

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


Being positive as we deal with the negative

March 12, 2017

Positive bunny

 

Being positive as we deal with the negative issue or situation capturing our attention right now, though perhaps not actually being a happy bunny, is an option worth considering. After all, being negative would only at best suggest the difficulty has control over our outlook. And this is surely not so.

Being positive as we deal with the negative is possibly as much a habit or a way of being as a strategy. In a sense, it is not something to turn on and off at a whim. Being constant in our approach towards life makes it easier for those around us to well, basically, be around us.

Being positive as we deal with the negative also has the potential to open up opportunities previously hidden behind the dark clouds of the moment. Believing each challenge has a solution bolsters our enthusiasm for life, even whilst we grapple with this or that setback.

Being positive as we deal with the negative, in conclusion then, can act as a catalyst for all we do regardless of the eventual results obtained. As a component of our best self, it is we might say, a reflection of who we are.

To share your thoughts on the ideas put forward here, please leave a comment below. In any case, thanks for reading this Being positive as we deal with the negative post.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

Skype: bgdtskype
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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Publications

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


Clouding the moment

November 3, 2016

Clouds in the moment

 

It is perhaps not difficult to imagine a scenario in which we are operating to our potential, being our best, despite this or that clouding the moment.

External matters beyond our control will always be present in one form or another. However, our ability to embrace fully the opportunities before us is, fortunately, not connected to situations clouding the moment.

Our positive approach, regardless of these things clouding the moment, stems from our inner strength and commitment towards our heartfelt goals. Being disinterested is, of course, an option, yet one likely holding little value to us.

Things are more complicated when the items clouding the moment derive from our confusion and lack of confidence in our objective. Giving ourselves a ‘good talking to’ may help. Alternatively, we have the possibility of exploring the underlying source of these sensations clouding the moment.

Reflection offers us the opportunity to embrace, as opposed to push away, an issue causing the dark clouds. We might discover a previously overlooked point requiring our input before whatever is clouding the moment moves away.

Considering this exercise of clarification as a strategic phase of our development gives us the chance to appreciate, as it were, whatever is indeed clouding the moment.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

Skype: bgdtskype
Twitter: @bgdtcoaching
E-mail: brian@bgdtcoaching.com
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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Publications

The stage of work (Milan: EDUCatt, 2016)

Performance skills at work (Milan: EDUCatt, 2015)

Personal performance potential at work (Milan: EDUCatt, 2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (Milan: EDUCatt, 2013)

Reflections on performance at work (Milan: EDUCatt, 2012)

Elements of theatre at work (Milan: EDUCatt, 2010)

Training through drama for work (Milan: EDUCatt, 2009)


Forewarned

August 21, 2016

Warning sign

It might be handy if we were always forewarned about upcoming challenges or potential setbacks along our development path. After all, knowing what we are going to encounter helps us prepare ourselves to face them and, hopefully, overcome them.

In many instances we are indeed forewarned. The proverbial writing is often on the wall as lots of situations are merely repetitions of past occurrences. That said, the question concerning the extent we learn from the past needs pondering.

Moving through life as if everything is new and cropping up for the first time is an option. This can even be a way of appreciating the uniqueness of each moment. However, experience is also a part of life and tapping into it to be forewarned takes nothing away from being present right now.

One possible issue with being forewarned may be the building up of trepidation towards the aforementioned upcoming challenges or setbacks.

Instead of concentrating on putting plans and strategies into place to minimize their negative impact, we could fall into the trap of allowing them to develop in our mind to the point we are afraid of meeting them. Inertia rules over us as we become so obsessed and fearful.

As the saying goes, “Forewarned is forearmed.” By forgetting this we lose a certain amount of our effectiveness, rendering the way forward tougher than it perhaps need be. To share your thoughts on the idea of being forewarned, please leave a comment below.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

Skype: bgdtskype
Twitter: @bgdtcoaching
E-mail: brian@bgdtcoaching.com
Google+: google.com/+BrianGroves
Website: http://www.bgdtcoaching.com
Blog: https://bgdtcoaching.wordpress.com
YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/bgdtcoaching/videos
Pinterest: http://pinterest.com/bgdtcoaching/the-bgdtcoaching-space

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Publications

Performance skills at work (2015), Personal performance potential at work (2014), Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013), Reflections on performance at work (2012), Elements of theatre at work (2010) and Training through drama for work (2009).

 


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