December 4, 2013

Cat on a path

Any moment of the day offers us an opportunity to either explore it for the sake of understanding, or move swiftly through it to the next one. Looking at the context of the moment as well as the details of it can help us decide what to do.

An understanding of our sentiments towards whatever is before us, and indeed the whole enchilada impacting on it, is likewise part of the complete picture we can work towards. Yet understanding is not perhaps the goal in itself.

Understanding is an element of awareness. And awareness is crucial for guiding our activities, work or endeavours in general that we are contemplating for the coming days.

Naturally there will be occasions in which understanding is not possible. We may not be happy with this, it might cause us upset, annoyance or any other unpleasant feeling. However, we need not create additional pain for ourselves by refusing to accept the situation as it is.

As Gandhi is attributed as saying: “Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.”

Well, a mishmash of ideas. In any case, thanks for connecting here today. To join the conversation on the subject of understanding, please leave a comment below.

Kindest regards.


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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer and CTI-trained co-active coach, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.


Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013), Reflections on performance at work (2012), Elements of theatre at work (2010) and Training through drama for work (2009).


Pondering harmony

October 10, 2013


“Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed.”


Pondering harmony within our being provides a platform from which we can choose to stand still, turn back or strive forward. Harmony of thought and word and action channels our efforts. Yet such a thing is rarely easy.

From the blog post entitled Harmony, posted in April 2012 (click here to read), I wrote: “Striving for harmony in our daily activities, possibly attempting to balance things we are obliged to undertake with those we wish to do, takes care and attention.”

Any differences between us, rather than creating separation, can give emphasis to our similarities and therefore add to the harmony in the workplace and beyond. Achieving balance in such cases comes from an awareness and acceptance of us all as individuals.

Pondering harmony, however, need not exclude any thoughts or ideas. Accordingly, if you’d like to share your thoughts here, please leave a comment below.

Thanks for connecting today.


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September 10, 2012


The word ‘Assessments’ may produce all sorts of differing associations to us. Possibly from the world of work, assessments can bring to mind the annual appraisal or end-of-project debriefing in which aspects of performance are mulled over.

On a personal level, assessments might suggest health examinations, be they to confirm one’s next step towards full fitness or something of a more specific nature. Whatever the assessment, ideally prior to our input we will have been informed to what standard or benchmark we are to be ‘measured’.

Our efforts can be directed towards this target, aiming as ever no doubt to perform at our best under the circumstances of the moment. And as they are assessing us, it’s hoped the assessors take into account the words of Gandhi: “Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.”

Assessing our well-being could also be a part of our ongoing development, gauging where we are against our life and career goals. To what extent are we ‘on schedule’, obtaining our desired results? Within the assessment these questions can guide us forward.

Such evaluations may mean we avoid losing time on activities which are ineffective or even counterproductive as regards our efforts and inputs. Running flat out is fine, provided it’s still in the ‘right’ direction.

To share your insights on the issue of assessments, please leave a comment below. In the meantime, and as ever, thanks for reading this today.

Kindest regards.


Reflections – Shadows at work

December 11, 2011

The theme of shadows at work may seem a peculiar choice for this posting. After all, isn’t every operation transparent, an open book, nowadays? Shadows on the sidelines of commerce surely belong to the dark ages of economic history?

Quite possibly so, perhaps. Yet for ethical behaviour to take hold and flourish in the workplace, good intentions coupled with fine speeches are never enough.

If a company is to avoid shadows in a manner befitting the twenty-first century, talk regarding the value of operating with the interests of all stakeholders in mind needs to be backed up with actions. Only in this way will the concept be understood, internalized and implemented by all concerned.

If not, as Gandhi put it, “To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.”

As ever the ideas expressed here are set down for the sake of reflection. Looking at the question of shadows at work from other perspectives would certainly provide more light on the matter.

If you’d like to join the conversation, please leave a comment below. In the meantime, thanks for stopping by.

Kindest regards.



Reflections – Facing the truth

June 20, 2011

Whether we like it or not, as Gandhi said: “the truth is the truth”.

Facing the truth is often the first step in the process of working on whatever needs to be done to bring about a life more aligned to our values and objectives.

Denying the truth on the other hand – be it related to work issues, relationship matters or any other area of life – rarely helps us over the long-term. Issues requiring our attention cannot be solved if they have been swept under the carpet.

At times it seems we prefer to cling to ideas and beliefs based not on facts but rather on a distorted version of the truth. Things have always been so, we might tell ourselves, without investigating the validity or otherwise of such thinking.

Colleagues, friends and family members even might feel the moment is never right to offer us the truth, though the benefits of such an action would be clear once the anguish or embarrassment has passed.

In coaching, ‘pussyfooting around with the truth’ serves no one. A challenging or thought-provoking question, arriving out of the blue can wake us up to the truth. Awareness and learning may come by having the truth spoken and perhaps examined within the safety of the coaching conversation.

In case you were wondering, my coaching activity on the telephone and via Skype continues throughout the summer. If you would like to explore how it could be of benefit to you, please get in touch.

Thanks for stopping by here today.




May 24, 2010

Expressing Priorities

I love the simplicity and directness of the Gandhi quotation “action expresses priorities.”

We can talk about what we want to do, we can even list the items and ponder them for ages. Yet nothing gets done until we do it. If asked, we could state what our priorities are for today. Could we however claim to have undertaken those of yesterday, or the day before? Hopefully yes.

Keeping priorities in mind helps focus attention on our objectives. Yet fighting the temptation to open e-mails as soon as they arrive, ignore a ringing telephone or leave interesting but not important requests from colleagues until a more appropriate time takes discipline and will-power.

Saying no to certain matters may seem like hard work. An alternative strategy is to deal with things as they crop up, swimming our way through the sea of urgent demands on our time by those around us. If we opt for this strategy, however, we can’t complain when we reach the end of the day and discover we haven’t achieved everything we had intended to do. The choice is ours, as always.

Breaking the day down into blocks of time and allocating certain moments for specific items or actions might be a step forward for some in the ‘battle’ to maximize our time. Likewise, remembering the purpose of our priorities could provide the determination to complete our chosen tasks, as, when and how we decide.

Time management, or time leadership as it is known in certain circles, involves many ideas, tips, suggestions and hints. If you have any particular methods you’d like to share here, or indeed any thoughts concerning this subject, I’d love to hear from you.

Happy implementation of your objectives!



May 10, 2010

Being the Change

Be the change you want to see in the world.

Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi (1869-1948) said it well.

Be, not do or have something particular. Be, right here, right now, as we are. Being ourselves, in line with our deepest values and beliefs.

The change, of behaviour towards others if we want a kinder society; in the way we consume energy if the environment is our concern; or in any area of our sphere of influence for whatever is near our heart.

You want, yes really want, desire, long for and are prepared to be proactive to bring about.

To see, today, tomorrow, in our lifetime. And even if we never get to see it, at least it won’t be said we didn’t strive for what we believed in.

In the world, our world the only one we have. Waiting for others might mean we wait a very long time… for it to never happen.

If we were asked, could we say we are being the change we want to see in the world? Tough question I know. How would you answer?


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