Setbacks need not make us cry

December 2, 2018

Fried onions

Although it is fair to accept they happen, setbacks need not make us cry. Whether we mean this literally or figuratively is of little relevance.

Once an event, situation or other unwanted issue arrives in the form of a setback, it is up to us to manage our reaction to it and the impact it has or could have on our plans.

Finding a positive side to a supposedly negative occurrence is not always possible. Nevertheless, once again setbacks need not make us cry. We might be able to at least find learning within the moment and use this to help further our progress.

With so many projects probably on the go at any one time, it is only right to almost expect the occasional challenge. Perhaps we should actually be concerned if all proceeds as hoped for.

But accepting passively a disappointment or interruption to our schedule is not what this ‘Setbacks need not make us cry’ post is about. Choosing a proactive approach, to make the best of whatever turns up, is.

However, thinking about the idea that setbacks need not make us cry, I’m curious to learn how you handle difficulties along the way to your desired objectives. To share your ideas here, please leave a comment below.

In the meantime, thanks for reading this ‘Setbacks need not make us cry’ offering today.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian taught a postgraduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

You can contact Brian via e-mail (brian@bgdtcoaching.com), by clicking on the icons or leaving a comment below.

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Connecting with our current location

November 25, 2018

Shop location

Connecting with our current location is easier when we feel comfortable with wherever we happen to be.

That said, it is the case that occasionally we find ourselves in places in which, on the surface at least, it is extremely difficult to even consider connecting with our current location. Perhaps it is exactly here we need to practice going beyond our initial reaction to embrace life by connecting with our current location.

Waiting for the ‘perfect’ time, situation or set of circumstances in general before attempting anything, including connecting with our current location, is a risky strategy. As we all know, it inevitably slips into worries about later as excuses bubble up to keep us from doing whatever we want or need to be doing.

It should be pointed out, however, that even if we are connecting with our current location or at least advocating such a move, there is no reason to think this implies we passively accept everything life throws at us, including where we are.

Making the most of the moment is a proactive approach and one likely to impact positively on how we go about experiencing now and future moments.

But then again maybe it is better to sit on the proverbial seat in the corner and wait for things to change, knowing everything passes. To share your input on the issue of connecting with our current location, please leave a comment below.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian taught a postgraduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

You can contact Brian via e-mail (brian@bgdtcoaching.com), by clicking on the icons or leaving a comment below.

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Is seeing red our most beneficial response to the moment?

November 18, 2018

Red beach hut

Anger has its place in our toolkit and occasionally is useful as a way to focus our efforts but then again, is seeing red our most beneficial response to the moment?

We might wish to lash out and let our frustration have its time in the spotlight. However, rarely are we rewarded with a positive outcome when this occurs. Just as we heighten the tension in an already stressful situation, others will likewise react to our outburst in a similar way.

Asking ourselves ‘Is seeing red our most beneficial response to the moment?’ and taking a while to ponder our answer goes a long way toward managing our reaction. After an appropriate amount of reflection – each of us knows how much is appropriate – we are in a position to take action, react or let go.

If we are the type of people who like to keep our emotions in check, a laser-like sharp-tongued quip would impact greatly on those around us. Accordingly, the reply to the enquiry ‘Is seeing red our most beneficial response to the moment?’ is a resounding ‘Yes’.

Folk more inclined to puff and blow at the slightest provocation have in a certain sense already given away any advantage by responding angrily as ‘Seeing red’ will be viewed by everyone as ’their natural way of being’.

All in all, finding our ‘best’ approach to life remains a personal quest. To join the conversation here on the issue of the question ‘Is seeing red our most beneficial response to the moment?’ please leave a comment below.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian taught a postgraduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Is the ladder we are climbing really that of success?

November 1, 2018

Ladder against a wall

Once the initial enthusiasm of a new venture has lost its shine and things no longer feel fun, it is worth asking ourselves a key question: Is the ladder we are climbing really that of success?

It is a question ideally pondered sooner rather than later but that may not always be possible. Knowing what we mean by ‘success’ helps greatly in understanding our position in addition to the direction we are moving in, also as we enquire ‘Is the ladder we are climbing really that of success?

From the perspective of work, the explanation requires the input of various factors. We might wish to consider the validity of alternative activities, financial concerns and ongoing professional commitments. After all, we are not always in a position to be able to change ladders with immediate effect.

With the details available from our investigations, however, options and previously unseen choices may become evident to us. ‘Is the ladder we are climbing really that of success?’ in such instances becomes irrelevant as we begin to comprehend we will reach success no matter which ladder we use to get there.

The proverbial ladder is merely an instrument to assist us and should not be confused with success itself. Or not.

To join the conversation here and share your thoughts on the enquiry ‘Is the ladder we are climbing really that of success?’ please leave a comment below.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian taught a postgraduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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What is stopping us from letting go of unnecessary baggage?

October 25, 2018

Baggage on the ground

Coaching clients often appreciate tough questions and, hopefully, you too will find benefit from pondering this one: What is stopping us from letting go of unnecessary baggage?

We might be carrying around with us any or all of the following items:

• Out-dated beliefs about ourselves;
• Negative input from people no longer part of our life;
• Unfair comparisons regarding ourselves and others;
• No longer valid opinions about religion, politics and so on;
• Habits out of sync with our life today;
• Acquaintances who represent our past instead of our present.

What is stopping us from letting go of this unnecessary baggage? Perhaps our answer can be found among the list here:

• Fear of fully embracing who we are today;
• Concerns about offending folk even if they are no longer part of our life;
• Our identity is linked to the baggage, causing doubts about our ability to survive without it;
• Uncertainty as to whether they are truly items of unnecessary baggage.

Attempting to release everything immediately is a strategy. We could also implement a step-by-step approach and give up each item/thought/idea one at a time, starting with the most obviously redundant piece of baggage.

It takes time, however, to adjust to life without such things but by starting today we give ourselves the chance to make the adjustment sooner rather than later. So, what is stopping us from letting go of unnecessary baggage?

Thanks for being here and please don’t hesitate to share your input on the matter of ‘What is stopping us from letting go of unnecessary baggage?’ by leaving a comment below.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian taught a postgraduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

You can contact Brian via e-mail (brian@bgdtcoaching.com), by clicking on the icons or leaving a comment below.

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Benefits of freeing our potential

October 11, 2018

Flowers growing behind bars

The benefits of freeing our potential are most likely many. At any moment, the most relevant will be linked to our current mindset.

Focusing on the efforts we make each day to bring our best to the table of life, I think the following two are especially important benefits of freeing our potential.

1) There can be no question as to whether we are giving our all to all we do. We are living fully as we engage with the moment.

Likewise, there are no doubts as to if we could be doing more, right now our efforts represent our potential.

2) Operating in such a mode, and hoping others are doing the same, the world gets to experience the real us rather than a half-hearted version. If some folk decide we are ‘too much’ for them then that’s their choice. Playing small to please others is surely a waste of our potential.

Other benefits of freeing our potential are, as mentioned above, linked to the mindset of each of us at any moment.

To share your ideas related to the issue here, please don’t hesitate to leave a comment below.

In the meantime, thanks for reading this ‘Benefits of freeing our potential’ post.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian taught a postgraduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Being comfortable wherever we are

September 23, 2018

Comfortable location

Following on from the previous post – How rounded is our approach to life? – it seems right to look at the notion of being comfortable wherever we are.

We might be referring to our physical location when thinking about being comfortable wherever we are. There are certain places we are at ease: home, our workplace hopefully, at the gym, and so on. Here we don’t need to hide behind any facade or lose time attempting to be something we aren’t.

Other locations could be more testing for us, yet we are still able to go about being comfortable wherever we are, including in so-called difficult environments.

Being comfortable wherever we are, having self-confidence, comes not from a sense of being better than anyone else, nor from arrogance. It stems from a basic belief in our ability to be our best, knowing there will be times this is enough as well as moments it won’t be.

Looking at challenges or setbacks as steps along the development path helps to put such items in a manageable dimension. Taking learning from these instances is beneficial to our growth and indeed keeps us rounded to refer to the previous post again.

As always, your input adds value to the ideas expressed here, so please don’t hesitate to share by leaving a comment below. In the meantime, thanks for reading this ‘Being comfortable wherever we are’ post, wherever you are.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian taught a postgraduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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