Does more always mean better?

July 21, 2019

Does more always mean better? Possibly yes, if we have bought into today’s consumption mentality of ‘needing the latest best thing’ and ‘wanting the newest version of this or that’.

However, asking this basic question might be enough to break our buying habit or craving. For those of us already feeling overwhelmed by past purchases, this would be especially so. Additionally, it can help us manage the pressure we may feel under to keep up with the Joneses.

Besides the enquiry ‘Does more always mean better?’, we could ponder whether less is better. This might open us to a new mindset, one in which we are able to appreciate items in our possession as they emerge from piles of new acquisitions and the like.

Of course, there will be some things we associate so closely with we are unwilling to do without and would never dream of not obtaining more if the occasion arose. Gadgets linked to work or related to a particular hobby come to mind. In these cases, the answer to ‘Does more always mean better?’ is probably ‘Yes’.

Knowing why we choose to buy something keeps our decision aligned to heartfelt values. It also ensures the shopping process is undertaken mindfully rather than thoughtlessly.

Or not. Don’t hesitate to share your thoughts on this ‘Does more always mean better?’ post.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

Curious? You can contact Brian via e-mail (brian@bgdtcoaching.com), by clicking on the icons or leaving a comment below.

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Developing ourselves by helping others

July 18, 2019

Regardless of our formal role, position or job title, we are all, in many ways, involved in the learning sector and developing ourselves by helping others is just one of the fruits we obtain from our efforts.

The expression “The best way to learn something is to teach it to others” is often quoted in training circles. Indeed, the process of preparing to explain something to someone invariably begins with a period of self-study, preparation and reflection.

In this phase, we are able to connect the new material to our existing knowledge of the subject. And while teaching the information, new perspectives may be offered by the participants to further extend our understanding and development. Again, it is developing ourselves by helping others.

Helping others is not limited to formal teaching situations. It could occur through conversations, encounters, and in writing. Even a well-timed question might be enough for a person to gain insights previously never considered.

Developing ourselves by helping others is, of course, a mindset as much as an action. Being open to ongoing learning puts us in a position to take advantage of daily opportunities to grow and help others as a result.

To share your thoughts on the issue of developing ourselves by helping others, please leave a comment below.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves

July 11, 2019

When it comes to working in a team, appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves goes a long way towards building harmony and collaboration.

Sharing pleasure for the work undertaken by colleagues creates an atmosphere inside any team that can inspire ongoing best performances. Ignoring the input of staff on the results obtained, on the other hand, leads to resentment and infighting.

Appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves, however, is not something to be done as either a one-off action or in a manner suggesting it is being given merely for the sake of doing it. Expressing heartfelt gratitude connects people to the work, the shared goals and all those involved in the process.

Nevertheless, appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves need not be limited to verbal acknowledgements. Being creative in how appreciation is demonstrated – gifting time-off or person-specific ‘treats’, for example – indicates the thoughtful nature of the employer, team-leader and so forth.

In terms of appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves, the words ‘and ourselves’ may come at the end of the phrase, yet in all probability, they should be at the beginning. If we fail to give ourselves a ‘pat on the back’ after producing exceptional work, our motivation to praise others can quickly diminish.

Motivation and optimism are key factors impacting on success as well as on creating a productive and open working environment. When all concerned understand their efforts are appreciated, rather than taken for granted, the results can be truly outstanding.

If you’d like to share your thoughts on the ideas raised here, please don’t hesitate to leave a comment below. In the meantime, thanks for reading this ‘Appreciating the efforts of others and ourselves’ post today.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Tranquillity in a busy moment

June 30, 2019

Finding tranquillity in a busy moment is much about looking for it.

We might actually not be aware tranquillity in a busy moment is something we can really find. And this is especially so when we are wrapped up in getting things done as quickly as possible to move onto the next items on our list of tasks.

Embracing tranquillity in a busy moment provides us with the occasion to step away from the intensity of the moment and, if desired, reflect on the present situation with a calmer mind. Such a pause could open up all sorts of learning or, at least, a sense of perspective regarding how the day is going.

With the pressure on us to be as effective as possible at all times – who knows how this mindset managed to take hold of us – it may seem foolish to ponder the notion of pausing. That said, burnout is such a big problem nowadays perhaps seeking tranquillity in a busy moment is not such a bad idea after all.

Letting go of guilt about giving ourselves time to catch our breath is a key component to connecting with tranquillity in a busy moment. If you’d like to explore this idea as part of a coaching conversation, please get in contact.

For now, thanks for taking the time to read this ‘Tranquillity in a busy moment’ post today.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Being our best is always the best option

June 27, 2019

Although there are many ways of moving through life, being our best is always the best option if we want to live our potential fully.

How we actually put that into practice is very much an individual issue. In any case, there might be elements of the following points in the process.

1) Focusing on only one thing at a time. The more concentrated effort we apply to an endeavour, the better the chances of completing it to the best of our abilities.

2) Give attention to aspects of a task which are under our control, rather than worry over factors outside our sphere of influence.

3) Work to our strengths even while we are attempting to resolve any weaknesses. In showcasing our strengths, we are demonstrating what it is to be our best.

To share your input on this ‘Being our best is always the best option’ post, please leave a comment below.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Listening intently

June 23, 2019

That we all listen to others throughout the day is a certainty, yet to what extent are we listening intently when we pay attention to others?

Listening intently is that form of connecting with the speaker for the sake of actually hearing the message being transmitted. We could call this active listening, as the opposite is certainly passive from the perspective of participants in the communication process.

All number of benefits can arrive when we engage in listening intently.

1) We show respect to the speaker and acknowledge we are interested in what is being said.

2) We transmit empathy by listening intently, and this could be reciprocated when it is ‘our time’ to speak.

3) By listening intently we have the possibility to learn something new. As the saying goes, “It is difficult to learn from others when we are talking”.

Listening intently is, of course, a central part of the coaching conversation. Being heard and, if necessary, having words and ideas repeated back can spark input and lead to clarity on the part of the client. Curious? Please get in contact and we can schedule a session.

Thanks for reading this ‘Listening intently’ post today.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Empathy and integrity

June 20, 2019

Out of empathy and integrity, as soft skills which one is more important? Alphabetically speaking, empathy comes before integrity. But that is obviously not the only method of evaluating the importance of empathy and integrity.

This question was raised in a recent training session and the subsequent discussion brought up interesting viewpoints. Looking at empathy and integrity together, it is fair to say both are crucial to us operating in an interpersonal, highly connected, world.

Empathy for others, as well as for ourselves, is essential to the task of ‘getting along with others’. Integrity, keeping our word and living aligned with our values, acts as a point of reference for our behaviour on a daily basis.

If pushed, I’d stick with the alphabetical order. Being able to ‘be with people’ even if we don’t particularly understand or actually like the people before us, goes a long way to building a peaceful existence for all. Integrity is, of course, also an element of this, but broadly speaking seems to be a close second to empathy.

How we rank empathy and integrity does not especially matter, however, when both are part of our ‘way of being’ so perhaps the question is best set aside now.

In any case, thanks for reading this ‘Empathy and integrity’ post.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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