Our presence surely impacts more than the moment

March 10, 2019

Though we may not realise it, our presence surely impacts more than the moment. With a smile here and a kind word there we give much to those who receive them, as well as to ourselves.

Actions, of course, create ripples beyond the immediate waters in which they occur. Through our efforts, an idea could be planted in the mind of a casual observer. Over the course of time who knows what might occur as a consequence of this fleeting event. Again, our presence surely impacts more than the moment.

But what about those days we’d much rather stay away from everybody, close ourselves off from the world? Even then our presence, or better our absence, will not go unnoticed. Someone may miss us. Others could be curious as to why we aren’t showing up in their timeline or stream.

Additionally, in such times of doubts and worries, our true self suffers if we choose to hide our light. However, letting go of fears can be a struggle beyond belief. Putting them down, figuratively placing them at our feet, for a few minutes helps us understand we don’t need to be forever carrying them.

Yet if our identity is so connected to certain preoccupations, we always have the option to pick them back up again in a flash. Saying that we might discover we don’t want to.

Thanks for reading this ‘Our presence surely impacts more than the moment’ post today.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

You can contact Brian via e-mail (brian@bgdtcoaching.com), by clicking on the icons or leaving a comment below.

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Reflections

March 7, 2010

Meaningful Ideals

This morning over coffee a friend asked me what an ideal coaching client looks like. It gave me pause to wonder if there is a single answer to such a broad question. My ideas in relating to others are formed by so many variables, and I found myself thinking of how to illustrate an ideal type.

Solid, decent folk – I sense possibly based in America more than anywhere else but I could easily be wrong – going about their full and busy lives, who often need a place to be heard. They are people who temper frustration, who lack a safe space to express feelings that may otherwise be misconstrued, who sense that there is potential risk that their very feelings may be held against them as being so ‘out of character.’ They are people who yearn to speak about matters and sentiments which, spoken anywhere else, may not be viewed as acceptable or acknowledged as valuable.

I see my coaching sessions as a space being held for these people to allow themselves to explore these feelings and examine choices, safe in the knowledge I’m not there to correct them, teach them or judge them in any way. Meeting them as they are in the moment sounds almost clichéd yet for now I can’t think of any other way to express it.

No getting people from A to B. No fixing problems or insisting on a positive attitude.

Clients might go on to achieve all sorts of things in their day-to-day lives and I’ll be the first to offer my congratulations. Being themselves, warts and all, for an hour is, however, also worthy of recognition as it requires courage, determination and honesty – characteristics of my ideal coaching client.

I believe people are naturally creative, resourceful and whole, it’s a cornerstone of co-active coaching, as well as a testament to something I see as an essential component of a peaceful outlook that truly benefits the world and the clients I serve.

“If a man does not keep pace with his companions,
perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.
Let him step to the music which he hears,
however measured or far away.”

Henry David Thoreau

Ciao for now.

Brian.
www.bgdtcoaching.com


Reflections

March 4, 2010

Mindfully Playing Roles

For years I’ve dreamed of being involved in a company in which each person undertakes tasks purely in accordance with their skill, passion and love. A numbers expert would not be expected to sell, the IT tech need not be concerned with marketing and so forth. And yes, a coordination expert would be responsible for keeping it all flowing.

The idea need not be limited to the workplace. It could be argued if we apply the concept to our lives we can channel our efforts to perform to our highest level, in each role we are required to play – mother, father, employer, chef, procurement officer (shopper), loving partner, etc. – thus maximizing our involvement and enjoyment moment by moment.

Concentrating on where we are and on what we are doing right now would eliminate the vacant sensation of ‘going through the motions’ whilst thinking about the next appointment, meeting, shopping trip or whatever.

And let’s not forget the impact such behaviour would have on those around us if we truly showed up in their presence.

Is it possible to live in such a way in these days of multitasking and various digital devices supposedly so vital to us nowadays?

As always it comes down to personal choice with each of us evaluating the benefits or otherwise of how we have operated to date. Accepting the status quo for a ‘a quite life’ is only a choice when we weigh up alternatives. Without that personal input it seems to me Jim Rohn’s words below aren’t for us.

“Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you.”

Being 100% present means not being small, nor does it entail frittering away time starting lots of tasks but concluding none. It is being mindful of the now and living each instance to its fullest, knowing ‘it too shall pass’.

Keep in touch.

Brian.

2010, dedicated to helping clients optimize their potential. www.bgdtcoaching.com


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