How much are you really using your intuition?

June 11, 2017



By asking ‘How much are you really using your intuition?’ it might seem there is an element of judgement about the extent intuition is used. That is not my intention. I am actually curious to learn the frequency to which intuition is turned to when facing choices and the like.

On many occasions, we may feel intuition is guiding us in the decision-making process. ‘How much are you really using your intuition?’ “Lots”, we reply. The actual help, however, is often the tendency to follow tried and tested patterns of behaviour.

Habits can appear as intuition for the sake of lulling us into believing we are putting our best interests first. The reality could be it is the much sought after ‘quiet life’ calling the shots.

The path of least resistance is not the only way forward. There will be other times in which, in answer to the question ‘How much are you really using your intuition?’, we respond ‘”More or less a hundred percent.”

Circumstances too play their part in crafting a response to the inquiry ‘How much are you really using your intuition?’ That said, it is for us to decide when we turn to our intuition for guidance, especially as it rarely lets us down.

Given the personal nature of the question ‘How much are you really using your intuition?’, if you’d like to explore it as part of a complimentary coaching conversation via Skype or Google+ hangout, please get in touch.

Kindest regards.


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About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained Co-Active Coach, and Freelance Trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to reach their full potential, in education, work or life in general.


Heart Poems On Waves (2017)

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


Being wary

September 28, 2014

A cat being wary

“Without mistrusting everyone and everything, at times being wary is appropriate.” #bgdtcoaching.

Though each of us has an element of goodness guiding our actions, being wary on occasions keeps us out of danger and possibly also mischief.

Being wary we might choose to a) look before we leap; b) measure twice and then cut once and c) recall all that glitters is not gold. Clichés yes, but when listened to they invariably save us pain at a later date.

Of course, occasionally being wary works against us. We may feel an intuitive urge to dive into a situation. Then second guess ourselves, hold back and end up missing out on what would have been an opportunity for us had we indeed dived in.

Finding the balance between being wary and being bold is an individual task. Our assessment of the moment can guide us and, hopefully, our intuition will tip the scale one way or another for us. Or perhaps not.

Please feel free to share your input on the topic of being wary by leaving a comment below.


Skype: bgdtskype
Twitter: @bgdtcoaching

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer and CTI-trained co-active coach, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.

As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.


Personal performance potential at work (2014), Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013), Reflections on performance at work (2012), Elements of theatre at work (2010) and Training through drama for work (2009).

Finding ourselves

August 6, 2012


“Wherever You Go, There You Are” – Jon Kabat-Zinn.

Finding ourselves in a new location for whatever reasons might be disorientating for some, especially if we don’t know the local language.

That said, some things are universal and in finding ourselves somewhere else we can find this out for ourselves.

Kindness, curiosity and intuition transcend borders. Connecting with people through kindness requires no words. We speak as it were from the heart to the heart. Curiosity creates opportunities to explore the newness of the situations we find ourselves in. With intuition we are able to guide ourselves through the moment.

We carry with us, wherever we are, our values and way of being. Such things in themselves ground us no matter the location in question. Perhaps it’s not even about finding ourselves but about connecting with the oneness of the world.

Kindest regards, cordiali saluti, pozdrawiam, venlig hilsen.


Reflections – Intuition

October 10, 2011

“Let every man praise the Bridge that carries him over.”

Whilst praising the bridge, we can also acknowledge our intuition for having led us to it.

The journey may not have ben consciously planned, yet we find ourselves on the bridge. And in such cases the best way forward is over.

Intuition when listened to rarely lets us down. The gut feeling might unsettle us, but for the sake of the status quo ignoring it or even going against it, may prove more disturbing later on.

For now, in alignment with intuition, the bridge is being crossed and it just leaves me to thank you for being with me here today.

If you’d like to contact me, I can be reached by e-mail, through my website, blog or via Twitter.

Thanks again and goodbye for now.



October 7, 2010

Using Intuition

According to the Oxford Dictionary of English, intuition is “the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning.”

It is a capacity we all have. The degree of its presence in one’s life usually depends on the individual’s practice and application of it. If we are not accustomed to being sensitive to our intuition or ‘gut-feeling’ then of course it will have little impact on the way we run our lives.

Trusting our intuition is an act of faith in ourselves. It takes effort and determination to liberate ourselves from the conditioning of society which places importance almost exclusively on numbers, majority rulings and safe options.

Yet invariably we know when something is ‘right’ for us. Maybe we can’t put into words why we feel drawn to one solution or decision as opposed to another. It’s our intuition and, despite another’s attempt to dissuade us from our thinking, going against it rarely proves to be right for us.

I read somewhere of a practice of delaying decisions until one has had the chance to sleep on the issue. For a morning person like myself this works well if there is time to delay making the decision. For those who prefer other times of the day, the practice might not be so effective.

If items pop into our heads they usually do so for a reason. Keeping a notepad handy for jotting down ideas, insights and thoughts allows us to maximize our intuition.

The significance or meaning of an intuitive thought might not be immediately clear. As Rumi put it: “bewilderment is intuition.”

However, having it written down permits us to refer to it in a second moment when perhaps we can see better the bigger picture and make the necessary connection in order to benefit from it.

Knowing when to listen, when to speak up and even when to walk away often comes from tuning into our intuition. Certainly there will be occasions which are out of our control, yet for those times we can decide, aligning with our intuition can be a constructive action to take.

Intuition tells me it’s time to stop now. That said, I appreciate you being here today. If you wish to join the conversation and share your thoughts on the issue of intuition, please leave a comment.



September 20, 2010

Trusting Naturally

Thinking again about trust, it has come to my mind that in order to trust someone else we first need to trust ourselves.

If we are to place any area of our life – love, work, investments, time, beliefs – in the hands of others, we need to be confident in our ability to make the right choice. We have to be able to trust ourselves to make what we feel is the right choice in such matters.

For some this comes easily. For others it is a major dilemma of life. And probably most can be located somewhere in the middle of these two positions.

At times we might prefer to be rational. There will be occasions when gut instinct or intuition is our guidance system. Inevitably both will combine in our decision making process.

If we ever need to explain or justify our actions, rationality leads itself to words and understanding. On the other hand, though our intuition is rarely wrong, it can be more difficult to put into words why we trusted it. Intuition is personal; such a sensation doesn’t lend itself to explanations.

Never trusting, living in fear of having our trust misplaced keeps us firmly inside our comfort zones. We put up a wall around our life, our heart, our whole being. Trusting nobody, never giving the benefit of the doubt, keeps us safe we tell ourselves. Regardless of whether we really believe it or not.

No matter the reasons for giving our trust to others or to institutions, undoubtedly we will make mistakes. We are human, we can get carried away by our passions, our heart, our deeply held hope that certain people, organizations or situations are or aren’t really as they seem to be.

Yet our pride can usually withstand a few bumps and bruises, they might even do us good. Living up to our potential involves learning from errors, sometimes having to take a step back to move further forward, and it means trusting ourselves to find the way ahead. Isn’t that what life is about?

If you’d like to join the conversation, please feel free to leave a comment below. In the meantime, thanks for taking time out to read this today.



August 12, 2010

Looking at Love

Right now, using a scale of 1 to 10 how would you rate your satisfaction regarding love in your life? A tough question, reducing such a thing to a mere number can seem almost unfair. Yet love is such a central component for most of us taking time to examine it is perhaps not a bad thing.

In this assessment let’s look at love in a wide context. There is the love given and received from one’s family. Perhaps there is a special person in our life whose presence makes our heart sing. Being involved in the community, working with people and doing pleasurable tasks and activities are all elements of love.

Yet only the love we give out is under our control, that and our attitude towards love deriving from people and situations.

As Mother Teresa put it: “The success of love is in the loving, it is not in the result of loving.”

Love questions
In what ways could I create a more harmonious, loving environment for my loved ones and myself? To what measure am I giving out love to those I interact with on a daily basis? Right now how can I express love, appreciation and kindness to those around me? Referring to the last question, let me say a big, heartfelt thank you to you for being here and reading this.

Being open to love
If you are a regular reader of this blog you’ll know my journey towards being more in tune with nature, intuition, and looking at things and people from various perspectives is ongoing. This is not a journey away from business, but rather a reaching out to other aspects of the world. It is an embracing of more, not an exclusion of anything. It is a case of being more open to love.

Overall rating
8 out of 10. Love forms the basis of who I am and what I do. Giving unconditional love to my partner is not an effort, it is wonderful, exciting and for me the perfect thing to do. Without loving people in general, and their potential for optimizing their life in the present and future, I could not operate in the field of personal and professional development. So, yes, love is important to me.

If you would like to share your thoughts on love, please leave a comment below. In any case, until the next posting thanks again for being here today.


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