Embracing patterns of daily life

May 20, 2018

Patterned flooring

Embracing patterns of daily life, rather than deciding to ignore particular messages, is a way we could tap into a source of learning available to us.

Recently a client referred to déjà vu, noticing how certain themes seemed to be showing up in various formats. Perhaps life was attempting to make contact.

The American-born Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön stated in her book When things fall apart: heart advice for difficult times: “nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” This is especially apt for any reflection on the topic of embracing patterns of daily life.

Being open to receiving learning from a variety of sources, also by embracing patterns of daily life, we are in a strong position to explore the full range of emotions and experiences making up life.

Noticing, or better embracing, patterns of daily life such as recurring themes might be more beneficial than walking through life only partially aware of what is going on around us. Life becomes a fountain of inspiration when we ‘wake up’ to it.

Thanks for reading this ‘Embracing patterns of daily life’ post. Please feel free to join the conversation here by leaving a comment below.

Kindest regards.


About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Repeat mistakes regularly? What can we learn from this?

June 18, 2017

Repeated mistake


If it is the case you, like me, repeat mistakes regularly, what can we learn from this? The answer may be tied very specifically to the mistake itself or, then again, it is possibly related to more general considerations. For the sake of this post, let’s look at three broad aspects.

1) The American Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön noted in her 2005 book When things fall apart: heart advice for difficult times, “nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” It might be useful to keep this in mind when we repeat mistakes regularly. After all, should we fail to learn from our errors the first time we make them, hopefully, we will do so the next time around.

2) If we repeat mistakes regularly it could be a sign we are not giving our actions the full attention they deserve or indeed require. It is so easy to undertake tasks in a slapdash, half-hearted manner without care almost. Unfortunately, we cannot always get away with this behaviour. There are times this level of effort is not enough for the moment.

3) It is fair to question the effectiveness of our learning efforts if we repeat mistakes regularly in relation to a particular field of professional development or study. We may wish to broaden our exposure to the material using differing methods. ‘Learning by heart’ is not necessarily the only way to acquire knowledge.

Other ideas are surely available to us, but for now though thanks for connecting here and reading this ‘Repeat mistakes regularly? What can we learn from this?’ post today.

Kindest regards.


Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer
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Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer, Adjunct Professor and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to reach their full potential, in education, work or life in general.


Heart Poems On Waves (2017)

More Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

Heart Poems Captured From Dreams (2017)

How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)

The stage of work (2016)

Performance skills at work (2015)

Personal performance potential at work (2014)

Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)

Reflections on performance at work (2012)

Elements of theatre at work (2010)

Training through drama for work (2009)


October 13, 2013

Ice cream coneAs much as we may take our work seriously, there are few valid reasons for not allowing lightness, perhaps even laughter, to enter the hours set aside for accomplishing tasks.

Maybe our natural way of being is cheery, even extrovert. For us lightness sits comfortably on our shoulders as we take on all that the day throws at us with good humour.

Possibly we might be examples of the so-called ‘quiet types’, introverts who prefer to let our efforts speak for us. Lightness for us could refer to our inclination to disturb situations as little as possible, keeping our heads down and our minds above the daily fray whilst getting things done.

Whatever our approach, the words of the American Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön, in her book The places that scare you, offer us something to ponder: “That we take ourselves so seriously, that we are so absurdly important in our own minds, is a problem for us.”

Loosening up, bringing lightness to our days can produce benefits to ourselves and those around us. Time invariably drags when we are resisting what needs to be done, but flies when we flow with the moment. Lightness towards work might mean we are able to be our best, give our best and, hopefully, enjoy the process at the same time.

Thanks for connecting here today. If you would like to share your input on the issue of lightness, please leave a comment below.

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Reflections – The turning wheel

February 23, 2012

This turning wheel was probably installed to entertain seafront visitors. Round and round we go, taking in the moments and witnessing a variety of features as each catches the eye. It seems so similar to the way life places learning in front of us until the lesson is learnt.

As the American Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön put it: “Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.”

Sometimes smoothly, on occasions briskly and possibly even to our minds harshly, we encounter lessons as the proverbial wheel turns. Round and round we go, taking in sights and experiences. Whether we are searching actively or accepting passively, life spreads out before us.

The structure of the turning wheel, consisting of a large number of different yet interlocking pieces, could be said to mirror the variety of people who form our circle of friends, acquaintances and, to borrow from business, stakeholders. Each, in his or her own way, undoubtedly adds to the experience of life.

So round and round we go; images fade and darkness descends as the wheel turns before hidden sights come into view once more. With focused attention this time around we might see meaning and significance in the sights surrounding us. Or possibly we will need to wait until the turning wheel turns again.

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Kindest regards to you.



Reflections – Living Today

January 13, 2011

The idea of not being around in two hundred years time most likely worries few people. Bringing the timescale forward and things start to get interesting.

In a sense I suppose it’s natural we don’t spend much time considering life without our being centre stage. After all, most of what we do is about us and what we need, want or desire. Invariably we are too busy to think beyond ourselves.

Yet taking life for granted can be risky. As the saying goes, “nobody knows what is around the corner”.

Embracing each waking hour, rather than just filling time, is the basis of living in the moment and one way to ensure we live life to the full, no matter what occurs in the future.

Today, right now, is special in that with a deep breath, and perhaps a smile to the mirror, we can decide to put worries behind us and press on with living in line with our values. It really is true, nobody but ourselves can ultimately control our feelings, thoughts or attitudes.

If things could be better we can put effort into making them so. And in the case our situation cannot be changed immediately, then we need not concern ourselves with attempting to alter it at present. In this way we can affirm our existence, fully not mechanically, conscious of life in all its wonder.

Twelve months ago my father died. Celebrating his life and honouring his memory, let me close with the words of Pema Chödrön: “Today is a good day to live”.

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Reflections – Sharing This Moment

December 16, 2010

If you were to look up from the screen and take in this moment, what would you notice?

The objects, people and sights are all integral elements of your life at present. You might be in an office, at home, sitting on a train or in a million other locations. No matter, wherever you are, this too is part of your life.

How satisfying is the picture you see? If it could talk, what would it say to you? How prepared are you to listen to the answer? To what extent would you like to be in the same position this time next year? What are you intending to do to ensure it remains the same or gets better?

I’ve spent quite a large chunk of this year in the ‘do’ mode, chasing deadlines and so forth. On many levels I’m pleased with what I’ve done, though more could have been achieved. Yes, the little voice in my head is hard to please, but as I’ve said before, it comes with a volume control.

With the seeds for 2011 planted and the holiday season almost upon us, I’m content to just ‘be’ in this moment, let things go and enjoy now. As Pema Chödrön said: “Every moment is unique, unknown, completely fresh.”

Connecting with you here is part of the pleasure of life for which I thank you. Keep in contact, leave a comment if you wish and, in case we don’t meet in the coming days, Happy Holidays to you.


Reflections – Embracing As Step Two To Handling Obstacles

October 18, 2010

Focusing today on the second of the five steps to handling obstacles introduced recently, a few considerations can be made concerning the idea of embracing.

Pema Chödrön said: “If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.”

I believe the idea need not be limited to people. Any obstacle, barrier, or hurdle standing between us and our goals can likewise be thought of as a teacher, or at least a nugget containing learning.

Engaging calmly with whatever is hampering our advancement need not be considered a loss of time. Perhaps the key to our overall success lies at the heart of what at first glance may be thought of as a distraction or disturbance to us.

I have noticed how despite my desire to complete a task as quickly as possible, it is often during the so-called ‘disruption’ that I’m able to find an idea or solution to eventually take me forward. Being receptive to discovering value in any moment might be the key to its discovery.

When we embrace each moment, treating things and people as they are not as we wish them to be, our situation can take on a new perspective. So often it is the fight against reality which clouds our thinking and causes us to magnify incidents and suchlike into mountains to be scaled.

Additionally, though we may believe we have everything on the path leading to our objectives under our control, there may come times we need to stop and perhaps reassess our options. Blindly continuing what we have always done might not be sensible in the light of new developments.

It seems to come down to a question of whether we are prepared to at least consider learning can come to us in all manner of ways, or not. If we are open, even the aforementioned obstacles can therefore contain nuggets of learning for us.

In the next posting I’ll examine the third step: ignoring aspects of the obstacle which do not directly impact on or impede our progress. If you wish to join the conversation with a comment, I’d love to hear from you. In any case, thanks for stopping by.


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