How often do you play the blame game?

August 20, 2020

Is it daily, weekly, or monthly? How often do you play the blame game? To what extent do you shift responsibility for X, Y, or Z from your shoulders to those of another person?

Of course, you might be screaming at the screen right now, attempting to justify why ‘whatever’ is ‘his’ or ‘her’ fault. And by doing so, your answer to the question ‘How often do you play the blame game?’ is perhaps ‘I never stop’.

Taking responsibilities, at least for our responses and attitudes towards things upsetting us or being less than we would like, is a powerful action.

Nobody cares about our rants and raves concerning who does this or that. Think about it, how often do you play the blame game then become more frustrated when people fail to take your side or give you the comfort you feel you deserve as the victim?

On the contrary, when folk see us stepping forward to take charge of situations, even or especially those not of our making, we are modelling a proactive behaviour.

Thanks for being here today, and please feel free to like and share this ‘How often do you play the blame game?’ post.

Kindest regards.


About Brian

Brian Groves DipM FCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches the International graduate courses Leadership coaching: bringing potential to the stage of work and Personal marketing: performance skills at work.

Through coaching, training and writing, Brian works mainly with motivated young and mid-life professionals who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Reflections – Proactivity

April 16, 2012

The words “Knock, and it shall be opened unto you” from the New Testament for me sum up the idea of proactivity.

If we want the door to be opened, we have to at least knock on it. Our action or involvement in the process is imperative.

Waiting for things to happen, the opening of the proverbial door, could find us staring at the closed door forever if there is nobody there to open it for us.

In a similar way, lingering on the sidelines for the conditions to be perfect before undertaking this or that may mean we never begin.

Being proactive is also perhaps as much about taking responsibility for the things within our power of control as attempting to initiate actions. Proactivity is in this sense a stance towards life as it is, opposite to a defensive position of denial, anger and distrust.

So if the door is not to remain closed, I guess the next step is pretty obvious, no? As the American poet Ralph Waldo Emerson noted: “The world is all gates, all opportunities, strings of tension waiting to be struck.”

Thanks for proactively being here today. To join the conversation, please leave a comment below.

Kindest regards.


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