To what extent are we afraid of success?

September 22, 2019

As achievements loom on the horizon and our efforts to date begin to bring the desired results, it is timely to ask ourselves to what extent are we afraid of success?

Of course, it could be such a question is completely out of place. After all, if chosen actions are getting us to where we claim we want to be, why wouldn’t we want to cross the finishing line of success?

Over the years, clients have spoken of success as:

“A changer of the status quo”;
“A bringer of more responsibility”;
“A performance bar needing to be raised continuously”.

Any of these reasons might be enough to ‘justify’ having doubts about success. However, we should not forget the positive benefits of accomplishing something:

a) The satisfaction in knowing we have overcome challenges;
b) The feeling of achievement after a period of sacrifices and the like;
c) Motivation to continue along our professional/personal development path.

With all these ideas in the open, let’s me ask again: to what extent are we afraid of success?

To discuss your response as part of a coaching conversation, please get in contact.

For now, thanks for reading this ‘To what extent are we afraid of success?’ post.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Università Cattolica, Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing motivated people who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Where are your dreams leading you?

January 17, 2019

Questions asked, and answered, from the heart are powerful tools which can keep us focused. ‘Where are your dreams leading you?’ is one such question and setting aside a few moments to explore your response may provide some interesting insights.

Looking at the question ‘Where are your dreams leading you?’ from a variety of perspectives might likewise open the door to learning.

The first is that of imagining you are already at your chosen destination, and looking back on the path travelled with an eye on continuing the journey to even greater success, asking what steps should be repeated to propel you ever onward.

The second perspective involves thinking if only one dream were achievable, what would it be?

And thirdly, how much enjoyment are you obtaining by remaining on the current path? The answer to this alone could go a long way to responding to the question ‘Where are your dreams leading you?

To share your eventual answers as part of a coaching conversation, please get in contact. In any case, thanks for reading this ‘Where are your dreams leading you?’ post today.

Kindest regards.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches an International graduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related leadership and performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Is the ladder we are climbing really that of success?

November 1, 2018

Ladder against a wall

Once the initial enthusiasm of a new venture has lost its shine and things no longer feel fun, it is worth asking ourselves a key question: Is the ladder we are climbing really that of success?

It is a question ideally pondered sooner rather than later but that may not always be possible. Knowing what we mean by ‘success’ helps greatly in understanding our position in addition to the direction we are moving in, also as we enquire ‘Is the ladder we are climbing really that of success?

From the perspective of work, the explanation requires the input of various factors. We might wish to consider the validity of alternative activities, financial concerns and ongoing professional commitments. After all, we are not always in a position to be able to change ladders with immediate effect.

With the details available from our investigations, however, options and previously unseen choices may become evident to us. ‘Is the ladder we are climbing really that of success?’ in such instances becomes irrelevant as we begin to comprehend we will reach success no matter which ladder we use to get there.

The proverbial ladder is merely an instrument to assist us and should not be confused with success itself. Or not.

To join the conversation here and share your thoughts on the enquiry ‘Is the ladder we are climbing really that of success?’ please leave a comment below.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian taught a postgraduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Acknowledging our success to date

March 4, 2018

Audience acknowledging success

Admittedly we may fail to take time very often to go about acknowledging our success to date. Even giving ourselves a proverbial pat on the back can be difficult if we are used to keeping our achievements quiet.

In the days of posting every meal, each fun moment, across a plethora of platforms, acknowledging our success to date may indeed feel contrary to this ‘modern’ approach to life.

On the other hand, if we don’t go about acknowledging our success to date at least to ourselves, it could be we fall into the trap of only focusing on what we haven’t done well or indeed not at all.

There are always a million more things waiting for our attention and time. Spending a few moments acknowledging our success to date, before diving into this bottomless pool of tasks and commitments, might not change the world, yet we will face the challenges awaiting us with a sense of encouragement and a winning mindset.

If you’d like to spend a few minutes acknowledging your success to date as part of a complimentary coaching session via Skype or Google+ hangout, please get in touch.

In the meantime, thanks for connecting here to read this ‘Acknowledging our success to date’ post.

Brian.

About Brian

Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, Coach, Trainer and Author, supplies professional and personal development to a portfolio of corporate and individual clients.

As an Adjunct Professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course, using four characters taken from dramatic texts as coaching clients, to examine various work-related performance matters.

Brian’s goal is to support through coaching, training and writing all who wish to live their potential, in education, work or life in general.

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Reflections – Momentum

February 21, 2011

Synonyms for the word ‘momentum’ include ‘impetus’ and ‘drive’. Forward motion is implied, and with this the idea of moving towards a goal comes to mind.

Transferring momentum created in the planning stage through to the completion of a goal is not always easy. Good intentions are not enough, enthusiasm often wanes as obstacles arise.

Sometimes additional energy is needed. Anthony Robbins asked: “What simple action could you take today to produce a new momentum toward success in your life?”

However, momentum is not just related to new inputs. If we can continue with what we are already doing, many times this too can lead to success.

A while back I left a sales visit with a signed contract. In the momentum of the moment, I chatted with the person in the lift/elevator and as a result gained a second new client that day. The occasion would surely have been lost had I interrupted the successful sales mindset at the doors of the lift.

It’s similar to maintaining a professional air even as we are queuing to retrieve our coats after a networking meeting. We never know who may be standing next to us. Life often tests our commitment to success by throwing us opportunities just as we feel like easing up the momentum.

Well, rather than running out of words, losing momentum so to speak, I’ll stop now. If you would like to share your input on the question of momentum, please leave a comment below.

Thanks for reading this today.

Brian.
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Reflections

December 3, 2009

Living Loving Kindness

Looking up the definition of ‘kindness’ in the New Oxford American Dictionary I read the following: “the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.”

Being kind, offering kindness, undertaking a kind act towards someone all add to the wonder and beauty of the world, whether it’s our goal or not.

Brian Tracy put it this way: “Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, ‘What’s in it for me?’”

Hold the door open for someone, compliment a colleague on a good piece of work, listen to an elderly neighbour with genuine interest, even if the subject concerns events forty years ago and people no longer around. It will be appreciated.

Did you do it? How do you feel now?

Taking the idea a step further, in the words of Buddha “a generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion are the things which renew humanity.” Borrowing from Primo Levi, “if not now, when?”

As we enter the countdown to the holiday season I’d just like to take a moment to thank you for being here right now. If you are reading these words it means you’ve given me a few minutes of your time and for that I am truly grateful.

Keep in touch and ciao for a now filled with loving-kindness.

Brian.
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