Meaningful Ideals
This morning over coffee a friend asked me what an ideal coaching client looks like. It gave me pause to wonder if there is a single answer to such a broad question. My ideas in relating to others are formed by so many variables, and I found myself thinking of how to illustrate an ideal type.
Solid, decent folk – I sense possibly based in America more than anywhere else but I could easily be wrong – going about their full and busy lives, who often need a place to be heard. They are people who temper frustration, who lack a safe space to express feelings that may otherwise be misconstrued, who sense that there is potential risk that their very feelings may be held against them as being so ‘out of character.’ They are people who yearn to speak about matters and sentiments which, spoken anywhere else, may not be viewed as acceptable or acknowledged as valuable.
I see my coaching sessions as a space being held for these people to allow themselves to explore these feelings and examine choices, safe in the knowledge I’m not there to correct them, teach them or judge them in any way. Meeting them as they are in the moment sounds almost clichéd yet for now I can’t think of any other way to express it.
No getting people from A to B. No fixing problems or insisting on a positive attitude.
Clients might go on to achieve all sorts of things in their day-to-day lives and I’ll be the first to offer my congratulations. Being themselves, warts and all, for an hour is, however, also worthy of recognition as it requires courage, determination and honesty – characteristics of my ideal coaching client.
I believe people are naturally creative, resourceful and whole, it’s a cornerstone of co-active coaching, as well as a testament to something I see as an essential component of a peaceful outlook that truly benefits the world and the clients I serve.
“If a man does not keep pace with his companions,
perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.
Let him step to the music which he hears,
however measured or far away.”
–Henry David Thoreau
Ciao for now.
Brian.
www.bgdtcoaching.com